Everybody loved Pam J.'s comment on Elisabeth Tova Bailey's guest post, so we're sending a copy of The Sound of a Wild Snail Eating to Pam! Here's what Pam had to say:
This reminds me so much of my dad and his relationship with a tiny spider in his bathtub. Dad was dying of cancer, refused treatment, and insisted on staying in his house to the end. As he began to lose the ability to walk or get out of the house he started relationships with some of his fellow house creatures, including the bathtub spider. He treated it like a pet, or like a housemate. I'm convinced that the spider taught him more about mortality than any of the earnest talks he got from the hospice clergypeople. It was sweet. Thanks for reminding me.
PamJ is a friend, and here's my blog post about her:
http://www.sustainable-gardening.com/archives/5796
Posted by: susan harris | October 09, 2010 at 11:23 AM
These are Peter Peppers--in afterglow.
Posted by: Emily Sandelin | October 09, 2010 at 03:11 PM
So nice to acknowledge Pam's comment and give her a copy of Elizabeth's book. A very touching sentiment in her remarks and I am sure her father got much comfort from such a small friend.
Posted by: Donna | October 10, 2010 at 12:56 PM
Oh, please don't diss "hospice clergypeople." For one thing, hospice workers are only sometimes "clergypeople". I suspect this group made it possible for your father to be there with the spider.
Posted by: sarah | October 10, 2010 at 03:56 PM
Sarah: don't misunderstand...I loved the hospice workers. Every single one of them. Including the minister who tried, ever so gently, to get my dad to talk about his spiritual beliefs. Hospice workers are as close to saints as humans can possibly get. I've told myself countless times that I should do volunteer work with a hospice. Your comment may move me a little closer to doing just that.
Posted by: Pam J. | October 11, 2010 at 05:42 AM
That was so sweet. I like for people to remember their loved ones in a fond way. I hope that I will be able to do the same one day. Thanks for sharing this with us.
Posted by: Taylor | October 11, 2010 at 12:30 PM